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  1. it's a responsibility being a parent

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    It's depressing when you hear people dismissing the tough life that some children experience and saying 'Kids can cope with anything'. Yes they can but that doesn't mean that they are okay by it. The tough things that they have to deal with at an early age leave them with unseen scars that change the potential of their lives forever. That's why there are so many unfulfilled, sad, worried,anxious and generally people with problems around.
    So look after your kids. Treat them with respect and don't just shout at them nurture them into adulthood so that you can have the best chance to watch them live fulfilled and peaceful lives.
    PLEASE SHARE and let's try to make a difference for the future generations. if it just makes one parent stop and think before they shout maybe we have made that difference.
    Photo: It's depressing when you hear people dismissing the tough life that some children experience and saying 'Kids can cope with anything'.  Yes they can but that doesn't mean that they are okay by it.  The tough things that they have to deal with at an early age leave them with unseen scars that change the potential of their lives forever.  That's why there are so many unfulfilled, sad, worried,anxious and generally people with problems around.
So look after your kids.  Treat them with respect and don't just shout at them nurture them into adulthood so that you can have the best chance to  watch them live fulfilled and peaceful lives.
PLEASE SHARE  and let's try to make a difference for the future generations.  if it just makes one parent stop and think before they shout maybe we have made that difference.
  2. hypnotherapy training

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    New course starting September!

    In order to be a good clinical hypnotherapist (or therapist) you have to have a deep understanding of yourself so that you can begin to understand others.

    It is very different from many other professions where you have to have a skill in delivery of procedures and methods.

    In hypnotherapy the skills are secondary. Primary is knowing how to find the problem that needs addressing. That takes a lot of awareness and an ability to be humble enough to know that you can only go as far as your personal filters let you.

    A good training course would introduce you to yourself in a new light that for some could be a high obstacle to climb.

    But the only way to be really effective is to keep climbing your own walls of enlightenment.
    See my new training course starting in September http://www.mindandbodybury.co.uk/hypnotherapytraining.html
    — at Mind & Body Clinical Hypnotherapy Training, Bolton Street, Bury
    Photo: New course starting September!

In order to be a good clinical hypnotherapist (or therapist) you have to have a deep understanding of yourself so that you can begin to understand others.

It is very different from many other professions where you have to have a skill in delivery of procedures and methods.  

In hypnotherapy the skills are secondary.  Primary is knowing how to find the problem that needs addressing.  That takes a lot of awareness and an ability to be humble enough to know that you can only go as far as your personal filters let you.

A good training course would introduce you to yourself in a new light that for some could be a high obstacle to climb.

But the only way to be really effective is to keep climbing your own walls of enlightenment.
See my new training course starting in September http://www.mindandbodybury.co.uk/hypnotherapytraining.html
  3. mental rambling

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    Do you mentally ramble? yes you do!!
    Do you like walking? Have you noticed how rights of way are often getting blocked by the farmer who owns the land?

    When we walk across a farmers land, using our right of way, he usually doesn't even know we are there. Yet he always knows we have been there. We have left footprints in the field creating a pathway that becomes an embedded route across or round the field.

    We just get used to following the pathways.

    How often do you stop to think about what you are/have been thinking? Thoughts seem to have the habit of taking a ramble through our minds and consciously like the farmer we are often oblivious but subconsciously we are fully aware and receptive to those rambling thoughts. As they become embedded and strengthened they have an impact on the way we consciously think.

    Try paying more attention to the rambling thoughts and you may begin to understand your conscious thoughts a little more.
    Photo: Do you mentally ramble?  yes you do!!
Do you like walking? Have you noticed how rights of way are often getting blocked by the farmer who owns the land?

When we walk across a farmers land, using our right of way, he usually doesn't even know we are there.  Yet he always knows we have been there.  We have left footprints in the field creating a pathway that becomes an embedded route across or round the field.  

We just get used to following the pathways.

How often do you stop to think about what you are/have been thinking?  Thoughts seem to have the habit of taking a ramble through our minds and consciously like the farmer we are often oblivious but subconsciously we are fully aware and receptive to those rambling thoughts.  As they become embedded and strengthened they have an impact on the way we consciously think.

Try paying more attention to the rambling thoughts and you may begin to understand your  conscious thoughts a little more.
  4. The responsibility of being 'NICE'

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    As part of my hypnotherapy course trainee hypnotherapists do a lot of work on examining their motives - and often that involves the need to look the reasons why it feels good to help people or be seen as nice or behave as people want you to behave. 

    It is a good thing to consider and  develop an awareness about your own motives, whether you are a therapist or just a 'nice' person.

    The other day someone was giving me a lift in their car and an innocent incident reinforced that this is relevant even on the most casual of ;nice' actions and I thought it worth sharing.

    It was in the evening so it was darkish with street lights on.  We were approaching a main junction where there was a very short queue and there was a car waiting to join our traffic from the left.  My friend slowed down and flashed for the car to come onto the road in front of her.  What happened next though was a surprise to both of us.  Neither of us had noticed the man standing at the pedestrian lights waiting for the lights to chance to green for him red for us.  He came walking across whilst the  light were still unchanged and my friend had to pull up sharpish.

    It wasn't anywhere near an accident but if my friend had not been concentrating for just a minute or had flashed when she was a few feet closer it could have been.

    That reminds me of the time when there was a double traffic queue down a busy main road near Heaton Park and I was driving in the centre lane that was moving more steadily than the outside lane.  Without my knowledge a car on the nearside lane had flashed someone to join the traffic in front of him but the car decided to come right across in front of me too and as I was unaware of this flashing it caused a near accident and an angry  man who thought he had been given permission to get where he wanted to be so exercised no caution.

    This illustrates in a minor way the responsibilities that go along with being 'nice'.  Aspiring as i do, to free spirithood. it seems be quite contrare to say that there are rules and if you break them then you need to be able to take the responsibility for the consequences.  So I won't say that.  I will say that we have systems to deal with complex situations and it's perfectly okay to be a free spirit and to adjust those systems as long as you are willing to consider all the implications and possibilities first.  And whats more to take the responsibility for any possible consequences.

    Different cultures have different systems that are culturally accepted so for instance,  sticking with the car theme. In France you are left much more to your own devises when driving hence, to me who is not culturally used to it, the chaos of the great ring road around Paris or the roads in central Paris or any big city for that matter is gross.  However to a French driver all our rules are a bit of a bind.  I would imagine that pedestrians have to cross these road with more of an adventurous spirit too.  There may be solid reasons for these differences and there is no right or wrong.

    So if you translate this into other acts of niceness and consquences - go on just think about it.

    So it could be harder than you think to be really nice.

    Andrea lowe

    Hypnotherapist and Trainer

     

  5. What's your job worth?

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    In my opinion, as a hypnotherapist, I have one of the best jobs in the world.  However, people often tell me they don't think they could sit listening to peoples problems all day.. I just don't look at it like that and my jobs worth comes on the days when clients walk out of my consulting room never to be seen again but very much more happy and optimistic than when they first came in.

    I have noticed that we seem to have several highly qualified young people who have chosen to come over here and work in a coffee bar or a restaurant and they seem to be very consientious, thorough and pleasant. Yet if they chose to look at life in a different way they could let the fact that they are apparently wasting their qualifications make them less conscientious and motivated more stressed and miserable..

    Any Job can be a satisfying experience if that's the way you choose to look at it or it can be a nightmare too and it's more often than not your choice..

    Some jobs can be very satisfying in a personal development sort of way.  Now don't laugh but if a roadsweeper chose to sweep in the moment and use the experience as an almost meditive personal practice then they would have a fantastic job and would surely appreciate the simple things in life.  Plus they would be proud of the cleanliness they had meaningfully created..

    Then again the person with the high-powered, demanding and 'stressful' job may put so much value in the status  that they can't step back and take the longer view.  When you think about it, a job is to give you a life not to take over your life!  You do what you can and what you can't will remain - no matter how stressed that pile of unfinished work might  make you feel.  Stressing about it makes it harder to complete and makes you miserable for yourself and the people you live you life with.

    There are exceptions when other peoples wellfare is dependant on you and yo7u sim0ply have too much to do so the responsibility can weigh heavy, but still there is a choice of ways to look at it.

    What I am getting around to saying in my long drawn out way is surely it is better to do a job that you might be over qualified for and put your best effort into it so that you are gaining great experience and personal development than to sit at home waiting for the 'right' job to come along.

    Life is changing and gradually and I don't believe it will ever be the same again.  I believe that we will eventually spend a lot more time developing ourselves and our spirituality (for want of a better word) and less on commercial status.  Wealth will have to be less important in the future as it has spiraled out of control.

    Take pleasure in the sim0ple things in life.  Nature offers fantastic spectacles if we can take the time to look.  A babbling brook, a fantastic sunset/rise,  ice on a lake and the rest. 

    Most of all make y9ur job work for you rather than the other way round.