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  1. The Most Misunderstood word

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    Hypnotherapy is probably one of the most misunderstood words in the English language.

    To some it means  profound change, to others it means hogwash, yet others would say scary and loss of control.

    All of the above could be right and could be right off the ball depending on that  perception again - how you look at it.

    Hypnosis is not a lot really, it is the skill of the person doing the therapy part of hypnotherapy that makes the difference.

    Hypnosis is just a state of relaxation, particularly of the mind - nothing new there - most people experience it when they are very tired and go a bit zombiefied or just after waking when they might not be quite their normal selves.

    The most fascinating thing about hypnotherapy (the therapy part) is unravelling the intricacies around a particular problem, behaviour or belief.

    In some ways you could compare a hypnotherapist to that little guy, Rumplestiltskin who has the skill to quickly untangle the silk and sort out the buttons or whatever the king demanded.  Hopefully, unlike Rumplestiltskin, the hypnotherapist does not use his skill to barter for new born babies and such like.

    So if you go to a hypnotherapist who is able to understand your problem and find a solution reletaviely quicklyy - hopefully you will think hypnotherapy is profound.

    Yet one who is not that engaged and reads a script from a book giving you an 'off the peg' inferior experience might be decribed as practising hogwash.

    Yet again the one who likes to talk about putting you into a trance and taking control, talking about him/herself and how good they are, generally taking the credit for your subtle changes if any might be described as scary and taking control of you.

    I know which was I am proud to be.

    If you aspire to being a good hypnotherapist Rumplstiltskin style then a foundation course in the skills behind hypnotherapy is starting later this month.  The 25th October and you can still join it.  It's one day per month for 6 months and you could go straight onto the hypnotherapy Training Course afterwards - or not.

    Cost is £360 ring me and arrange to come in for a chat about it.

    Or read more about it here

    Andrea (stiltskin) Lowe.

     

     

     

     

     

  2. Book review - Confessions of a Sociopath

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    Confessions of a Sociopath by M E Thomas

    If you know someone who seems to have no careWho is able to get their own way through manipulation
    Who exhibits charm - but is it sincere?
    Who is intelligent, imsincere and a convincing liar
    Shows lack of remorse or shame

    and a whole long list of other possible indicators then you probably know a sociopath or possibly if the description fits then you may also be a sociopath.

    This book is a personal account of the writers discovery that she is a sociopath.  It tells of her life from being young until the present, her relationships (mainly unsuccessful) and her career in many powerful and demanding jobs.  She tells of how her sociopathy helped her to cope with the jobs with the least of effort and commitment until her 'bluffing' was discovered when she would successfully move on to something else until that too lost her interest.

    She explains that although in certain circumstances childhood experiences can turn one into a bad sociopathic killer for instance, there are also very successful sociopath who toe the line.  She explains throughout the book and stresses that her need to behave within the rules is not because of fear but other needs which sometimes tend to contradict this person who is seeming to say she doesn't care.

    Apart from the shocker right at the beginning of the book when she tells of heartlessly killing an animal that most of us would have rescued she seems to be typical of a child that was treated with, not neglect but an uncaring attitude and I couldn't help feeling throughout the book that this is a plucky person who was determined to get through life successfully inspite of her upbringing (which she stresses was the right one for her as a sociopath).Though she does hint of the lack of emotioan from her family.

    She is unable to really trust anyone. She tells of studying people to find their achilles heal and then using it to manipulate them in one way or another.

    I can't help feeling that all the heartlessness is a way of preventing anything hurting her and causing her emotional pain.  She doesn't stick to a job, she doesn't stick to a fella, she doesn't care about friends unless she needs them.  She's self sufficient and a bit of a rebel.  The only things she does seem to care a little about is not doing anything to upset her family.

    The book certainly seems to reflect a little lonliness and saddness, confusion about herself and extreme attempts to 'feel'.

    It is said that one in twenty five of us are sociopaths but that is just a label - does it mean it can't be treated?  Maybe the label is another way of saying this is where I want to be - leave me alone I'm safe here.  Take the label away and are there possibilities?

    If you are living with or have a relationship with a sociopath there is one thing that seems to be certain.  You will never get the better of them and they will always want to control you, usually by manipulation - you know, encouraging you to believe the worst of yourself.  So if you find yourself with someone like that, don't worry, they won't feel it if you just up and leave. (But they may not like it so look out for the charm onslaught of manipulation to establish the upperhand once again)

    If you have or do read this book we would really like to read your thought on it.

     

  3. Corniest Cracker Jokes

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    For me, they're so bad that they make you laugh.  Laughing brings a little light and cheer into your life so go ahead read them and enjoy them add some and comment. Don't worry, it's magic to be weird.  Here we go:-

    Answers below but not necessarily in order!!!

    I bought my husband a wooden leg for Christmas - it wasn't his main present just a Stocking Filler haha

    Why does Father Christmas not come down the chimney any more?

    What is a Pelicans favourite TV show? 

    Where do the relay teams go for their training?

    What did Adam say to eve the day before Christmas?

    Why did Santa's helper go to the doctor?

    Santa: What's the terrible noise outside?

    Answers

    The Bill haha

    Because he has Claustrophobia haha

    Andover haha

    Mrs Claus: It's rain dear (say it out loud) haha

    Because he had low elf-esteem haha

    It's Christmas Eve haha

     

  4. it's a responsibility being a parent

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    It's depressing when you hear people dismissing the tough life that some children experience and saying 'Kids can cope with anything'. Yes they can but that doesn't mean that they are okay by it. The tough things that they have to deal with at an early age leave them with unseen scars that change the potential of their lives forever. That's why there are so many unfulfilled, sad, worried,anxious and generally people with problems around.
    So look after your kids. Treat them with respect and don't just shout at them nurture them into adulthood so that you can have the best chance to watch them live fulfilled and peaceful lives.
    PLEASE SHARE and let's try to make a difference for the future generations. if it just makes one parent stop and think before they shout maybe we have made that difference.
    Photo: It's depressing when you hear people dismissing the tough life that some children experience and saying 'Kids can cope with anything'.  Yes they can but that doesn't mean that they are okay by it.  The tough things that they have to deal with at an early age leave them with unseen scars that change the potential of their lives forever.  That's why there are so many unfulfilled, sad, worried,anxious and generally people with problems around.
So look after your kids.  Treat them with respect and don't just shout at them nurture them into adulthood so that you can have the best chance to  watch them live fulfilled and peaceful lives.
PLEASE SHARE  and let's try to make a difference for the future generations.  if it just makes one parent stop and think before they shout maybe we have made that difference.
  5. hypnotherapy training

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    New course starting September!

    In order to be a good clinical hypnotherapist (or therapist) you have to have a deep understanding of yourself so that you can begin to understand others.

    It is very different from many other professions where you have to have a skill in delivery of procedures and methods.

    In hypnotherapy the skills are secondary. Primary is knowing how to find the problem that needs addressing. That takes a lot of awareness and an ability to be humble enough to know that you can only go as far as your personal filters let you.

    A good training course would introduce you to yourself in a new light that for some could be a high obstacle to climb.

    But the only way to be really effective is to keep climbing your own walls of enlightenment.
    See my new training course starting in September http://www.mindandbodybury.co.uk/hypnotherapytraining.html
    — at Mind & Body Clinical Hypnotherapy Training, Bolton Street, Bury
    Photo: New course starting September!

In order to be a good clinical hypnotherapist (or therapist) you have to have a deep understanding of yourself so that you can begin to understand others.

It is very different from many other professions where you have to have a skill in delivery of procedures and methods.  

In hypnotherapy the skills are secondary.  Primary is knowing how to find the problem that needs addressing.  That takes a lot of awareness and an ability to be humble enough to know that you can only go as far as your personal filters let you.

A good training course would introduce you to yourself in a new light that for some could be a high obstacle to climb.

But the only way to be really effective is to keep climbing your own walls of enlightenment.
See my new training course starting in September http://www.mindandbodybury.co.uk/hypnotherapytraining.html
  6. mental rambling

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    Do you mentally ramble? yes you do!!
    Do you like walking? Have you noticed how rights of way are often getting blocked by the farmer who owns the land?

    When we walk across a farmers land, using our right of way, he usually doesn't even know we are there. Yet he always knows we have been there. We have left footprints in the field creating a pathway that becomes an embedded route across or round the field.

    We just get used to following the pathways.

    How often do you stop to think about what you are/have been thinking? Thoughts seem to have the habit of taking a ramble through our minds and consciously like the farmer we are often oblivious but subconsciously we are fully aware and receptive to those rambling thoughts. As they become embedded and strengthened they have an impact on the way we consciously think.

    Try paying more attention to the rambling thoughts and you may begin to understand your conscious thoughts a little more.
    Photo: Do you mentally ramble?  yes you do!!
Do you like walking? Have you noticed how rights of way are often getting blocked by the farmer who owns the land?

When we walk across a farmers land, using our right of way, he usually doesn't even know we are there.  Yet he always knows we have been there.  We have left footprints in the field creating a pathway that becomes an embedded route across or round the field.  

We just get used to following the pathways.

How often do you stop to think about what you are/have been thinking?  Thoughts seem to have the habit of taking a ramble through our minds and consciously like the farmer we are often oblivious but subconsciously we are fully aware and receptive to those rambling thoughts.  As they become embedded and strengthened they have an impact on the way we consciously think.

Try paying more attention to the rambling thoughts and you may begin to understand your  conscious thoughts a little more.