However, self-hypnosis is about relaxing and using very basic techniques like, positive mental attitude or positive suggestion to help you accomplish the things you desire. And by the way although I say these are very basic tecniques, they are also very easy to get wrong if you are untrained. It can also include listening to pre-recorded tapes that are not personalised to you - just to the things you are aiming for. You can even buy a book of scripts and record your own to listen to and your own voice is often more effective that a strangers voice.
Whereas with hypnotherapy it is the last bit of the word that has the impact - therapy. So when you are with your therapist they should firstly take some time to talk to you. Depending on your therapists training and experience the therapy could be based on a number of techniques and these should be personalised to your needs.
The other important advantage of therapy is that the therapist can see beyond your understanding of the problem and that is often where the solution lies. A good example to illustrate this is dreaming. When you have a dream you sometimes have an idea about where it came from but often (especially with the weird and wonderful ones) you have no idea why you should have dreamt that. Your therapist, when presented with your dream, will be able to relate the dream to what s/he knows about you and often will be able to find a meaning that escaped you but that makes complete sense to you once you have heard it.
However, hypnosis and hypnotherapy are never more than a deep relaxation and you can experience the same in many situations. You are not asleep but not fully awake and in that state similar to when you are daydreaming or drifting. It is also not unusual, if you are using a tape, to feel as though you stopped listening at the same place each time after you have listened for a few times. You have not gone to sleep but just gone somewhat deeper and it is perfectly normal.
Transferable skills or Transferable moods/fears/insecurities.
Transferable skills are normally associated with employment or education.
A transferable skill is a skill that you are able to use in more than one situation i.e.
·Plan and arrange events and activities
· Delegate responsibility
· Attend to visual detail
· Deal with obstacles and crises
· Present written material
· Present material orally
· Manage time
· Repair equipment or machinery
· Keep records
· Handle complaints
· Coordinate fundraising activities
· The ability to influence others
· The ability to motivate others
And you can see why some of them are considered valuable assets in the workplace.
That's just in the workplace.
When you consider all the abilities we need to live our lives, managing ourselves, dealing with other people and being responsible for bringing othersinto the world you can begin to appreciate what fantastic skills we have.
Many of our skills we develop quite naturally as we are growing up. Skills that in some way enhance our experience of life. These skills and strengths tend to become part of who we are rather than a skill that we can transfer. In fact they are probably not even recognised as a skill and in some cases rather a fault, weakness.
But like everything else in life, skills are skills, strengths are strengths. If some seems to be coming from the 'dark side' they are still what they are and by the law of everything should be transferable.
Think about the people you have known or known of, who have had a negative impact on you.
It's easy to recognise the people who bitch, moan or are miserable and easy enough if you are vigilant to remain alert to their influence and refuse to let yourself get drawn into their negative patterns. They certainly prove themselves to have a certain influence and could easily make the unsuspecting switch mood or opinion. What a powerful skill. Transferring it to achieve the opposite would ensure they had loads of friends.
However, it is the really skilled people with the much more subtle approach that are really wasting their talents.. The people who have the ability to change the way you are thinking and leave you feeling flat without ever really saying much. You know you've spent some time with them because your attitude has changed from being optimistic about a situation to being fault finding and suspicious.
There is no doubt about it those people can spot a fault at 100 feet and that's their great skill but using it to create a bad atmosphere is using that very valuable skill in a negative way. If only they could transfer that skill so that they were able to be helpful and supportive the outcome would be much more satisfactory and they would be valuable contributors and friends. As they are so subtle in their approach then they tend to have a great influence on others and before you can blink an eye, what was a relaxed and positive atmosphere is now a hostile and uncompromising experience.
Take people who are basically insecure. A skill that some of these people develop is to subtly and cleverly create that insecurity in someone who was previously quite upbeat. This is especially noticeable in tests or times when the potential for insecurity might be at its peak.
This takes place in partnerships too where one partner feels insecure or inadequate and over a period of time starts to erode the confidence of their partner so that they begin to develop a dependence whilst building the security of the once insecure partner as they are feeling more needed. This is often followed by the now empowered person developing a disrespect for their partner who then become the devalued one.
A split may soon follow as the newly powerful member of the partnership has so skillfully empowered themselves that they now feel too good for the robbed and depleted half of the relationship.
If they could recognise this behaviour, because that is all that it is, then they could transfer hat skill to a positive role helping to cement the relationship and empower the partnership.
Sometimes it's not easy, to give up the 'power' status as although rationally they perfectly understand emotionally they need to cling to the empowerment and put down their partner. They need that feeling of superiority to make them feel safe. Unfortunately such people may never feel whole enough or strong enough to face their demons and could live out the rest of their lives victimising others like emotional vampires, whilst coming across to casual aquaintences as the nicest person you could hope to meet.
If ever they are able to summon up the courage to do something about it then they really could be very effective and empowered in any relationship they chose.
Something to bear in mind next time someone really winds you up.
Senior Hypnotherapist and Trainer
Mind & Body Therapies Ltd. Registered address: 52 Bolton Street, Bury BL9 0LL Tel: 0161 764 1440 Company registration no 7736136